Girl meets guy. Guy shows lots of interest. Girl is confused when guy disappears off the map. Sound familiar? This is one of the most common dating problems I get asked about so if this situation typically happens to you, please don’t get down on yourself.

No matter how much fun you had on your date or how well you think it turned out, it’s not always easy to predict whether or not the guy will ask you out on a second date.

That being said, there are two main reasons behind why a guy doesn’t keep pursuing you. The first is that he wasn’t really into you to begin with; either he’s not that attracted to you, he doesn’t think there is any long term potential or he has other options in his life that he considers to be more important.

Some guys will spend lots of time with a girl he is not very interested in, which typically confuses women. Some reasons are: he wants to make someone jealous, he just wants to have sex, he is coming off a rejection, etc. No matter how beautiful and charming you are, some men will still blow you off so don’t let it get you down. Just move on to the next one.

The second reason is that you might have done something on your last date that completely turned him off. Again, this can happen for a variety of reasons and doesn’t mean that you did something wrong.

Many times while dating, we will get stuck in “screening mode” where we try to match up the person in front of us to our list of ideal qualities. If you think back, I’m sure you’ve blown off a few men after only one date because they didn’t seem to measure up. Guys will sometimes do the same so as long as it’s not a common occurrence, just chalk it up to poor timing or compatibility.

But if it seems like you never wind up on a second date, you’re probably committing some dating faux pas. In this case, I recommended that you sit down with a competent dating coach and see if they can help you pinpoint the problem. When it comes to first date conversations, many times, it’s just a minor issue that can easily be corrected (such as being less combative while conversing).

I have a quick tip for you to help you determine how interested your date might be in you. First, wait for him to tell you about one of his favorite places to hang out at. Next, ask him to tell you more about it. Once he’s finished, let him know that it sounds really cool and that you’d love to check it out with him. If he likes you, he will usually jump at the chance to take you. This doesn’t always work, but it’s a good little test of his interest.

So let’s wrap this up. Some of the best advice I can give is the following: Stop focusing on the future, and instead, try to have as much fun as you can in the moment (while on the date). Let go of any attachment to the outcome and focus on enjoying the person in front of you. This will help you get the outcome you’re looking for. Have fun!

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