You have been through a break up with a partner of some standing and the question that arises is how much time should there be between this traumatic event and dating again? As break up’s can be soul destroying, there are people who believe that the soul is enhanced by the frailty of love and regard this a journey of magnitude with positive growth. These are beautiful words and meaning but to the victim of an unexpected break up there is probably not a lot of consideration at this point for the message of hope that always remains.

The harsh reality is you are in the middle of a break up where time has no meaning and emotions are ripe. How could this happen., we seemed so in love? Why was I blind to what was to be? There is no seed of blame as love is illusive and has a life of its own Failed relationship does not represent a failure in you, so lighten your load and dispense with the past, move on to your future with a song in your heart.

Much has been written about tragedy in love. Tales of betrayal, jealousy and lust have had lasting impressions on our view of romance and have lived in our imagining as a vision of hope. Fairytales have maidens with long flowing hair and handsome young princes to rescue them from the evil suitor always destined to lose. Love songs that play through the night with singers that cry out their anguish condition us to a belief that love will turn bad and hearts will be broken. With enforcing like this are we too unrealistic about dating and love?

“Your burdens are enemies to all you have planned” When true love has ended so much can remain, like a ghost it will haunt you as you carry so much pain. Baggage is the magnet that can keep you in chains never able to trust while you hold in the poison of anger and blame. Counsellors and professionals see so many victims of break up today where happy enough people have been transformed into bitter, jealous shells of their former selves It is a sad state of affairs and often very tragic. One must let go of the past and its burdens the future is out there and ready to be lived

Sally was apprehensive as she sat in the caf, twiddling her thumbs and wondering aloud. Her silent banter was constant and abrasive, filled with negative messages like. Will he be dishonest like Mike? How will I know if he likes me for who I am? Her past relationship had left her scarred and alone, her trust destroyed and her confidence on hold, not great shape to be in on a brand new blind date. By taking Mike’s less than perfect characteristics and reflecting them onto this new guy she has already in her mind cancelled the possibility of him being the one who could be a partner for life. So Sally could have worked through her feelings before this special day and allowed herself to meet this brand new guy with a clean slate, thereby giving him and her the possibility of a brand new romantic relationship and a magnificent future

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