Lets face it breaking up sucks. If you have ever heard the song “Need You Now” by Lady Antebellum (if you haven’t make a point of checking it out, it’s a great song) you may have sympathized with the characters in the song who are going through a break up and doing things all wrong.

Here’s a line from the song: “It’s a quarter after one, I’m all alone and I need you now. Said I wouldn’t call but I lost all control and I need you now.” Rule number one, Stop The Desperate Dialing!

The other line I find interesting is: “It’s a quarter after one, I’m a little drunk and I need you now.” Drunk dialing is even worse. The other mistake that is often made is texting the ex, and texting and more texting. You become what is called a Text Terrorist.

So what is the right thing to do to get back with your ex?

Ask yourself one thing and be honest to yourself. Do I really want my ex back? Look deep inside to make sure the love for your ex is really there and this is not just a reaction to the loneliness.

Yes, I want my ex back! If that was your answer there is a process to follow.

Make SUre You Do Not Do What Is Expected

Being predictable is the last the last thing you want to be at a this time. You want to keep your ex guessing and working to worm his or her way back into your good graces. Keep them on their toes and he’ll keep coming back for more.

How can you avoid doing what is expected? By breaking from routine. The odds are good that following the same old routine is what led you to this place to begin with. It’s time to shake things up and do something a little new, different, and exciting.

Now Is The Time To Instill Relationship Goals

Even though you’re apart you can still set goals. If you’re trying to get your ex back, goal setting is an important part of the process. Set goals for different degrees of closeness and affection between the two of you and then set out to achieve those goals.

Here is a list of goals you will want to consider: reaching emotional milestones, making physical changes and being able to control your temper to start with. It will be up to you to choose the type of goals that pertain to your relationship.

Take Responsibility and Hold Yourself Accountable For Successes and Failures

Accountability, lately seems to be in short supply. Hold yourself accountable for failing to meet goals. As well as rewarding yourself when goals have been triumphantly met.

Reward and punishment are great motivators. Use them well. Some rewards you might consider are new hair styles, new video games, or even a night on the town with friends. Be sure that you’re doing things to encourage an active lifestyle whenever possible. You don’t want to exacerbate existing problems by creating potential health problems along the way.

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