A couple in a relationship are always both contributing to making the relationship thrive and flourish. If done right, it won’t even seem like work, but the most crucial thing to keep in mind is that relationships grow and thrive only when both parties are involved. Relationships can’t grow with the effort of only one partner – when that’s the case, count on seeing the relationship dissolve shortly. Don’t forget – it takes two to tango! The techniques discussed here may seem obvious, but the number of breakups people go through make it clear that an awful lot of people need this advice.
The truth is the best way to go
How can a relationship last if the truth is used only when it’s convenient? A liar cannot be trusted to tell the truth – and how is it possible to get into an intimate relationship with someone you cannot trust? The things you tell her make up a tapestry that represents not only your life, but your relationship together. Each lie is like a huge hole – meaning that the relationship is weak and incomplete. The things you tell each other reveal yourselves to each other and draw you closer together, but if some of those things are lies, they stand between you, they get in the way of coming closer together.
Attend to integrity issues
Integrity is trustworthiness. Of course, when you lie you hurt your integrity, but you also damage it when you make commitments and don’t live up to them. Integrity has to do with issues large and small – if you stand her up for a theater date, that’s major. But if you tell her you’ll remember to put your dirty socks in the hamper and then keep leaving them lying around the home, that’s also an integrity issue. It may appear minor, but it’s going to fester and make problems. If you want her to trust you with her heart, you’ve got to show you’re worthy of that trust. You do that by always behaving with integrity. As time goes by, you will inevitably grow closer and more intimate.
Attend to her feelings
Your relationship will grow faster and stronger if you take the time to pay attention to her when she’s talking. A relationship isn’t going to flourish if you don’t know how she spends her days, or what things interest her or make her upset. The best way to learn these things is to pay attention when she’s talking to you. It may seem that she always wants to have serious discussions at inappropriate times, like in the middle of the fourth quarter of the game you’re watching. You can work these difficulties out – but make sure that you pay attention to what she’s saying when she’s talking! Paying attention when she’s talking is a way of showing her that you care. Sometimes she’ll be agitated about something – comfort her as appropriate.
Don’t be excitable or easily flustered
Fights and arguments arise when there are differences between you. It’s up to you whether your going to use these opportunities to settle your differences and grow stronger, or defeat her no matter what just to prove that you’re better than she is, and that you’re always right. That’s a good way to get her to start looking for someone who doesn’t have to win every disagreement. If your only objective is to win an argument instead of solve a problem, the relationship won’t grow, it’ll shrivel up and die. When you have disputes, use the opportunity to understand her better. The relationship will grow stronger and you’ll both have greater respect for each other.
Finally, make sure you always let her know how important she is to you and how much you love her. When she spends time making herself especially beautiful for you, make sure you express your appreciation – genuinely! As long as she knows that she’s loved and appreciated, she’ll want to keep on making her contributions to the relationship, and she’ll never want to leave it!
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