This is not what fairy tales are made of; you meet someone on your favorite internet dating service and go out on a few dates. You and your new sweetie think each other is terrific when all of a sudden he (or she) is making room in your closet for a few overnight things and tells you they were so worried when you didn’t call last night.
Well, excuse me! Okay, definitely not a fairy tale, but certainly real life. So what do you do when the tune you’re singing is “Slow down, you move too fast”? Read on for two suggestions;
1. Say it, don’t delay it
It would seem that simply coming right out with it and telling the person you are seeing that it’s just all moving too fast for comfort is the simplest solution. If you’re like most people however, you would sooner end the relationship altogether than confront this issue head on.
You need to stop and consider the possibility that your latest amour is simply so smitten with you and excited about future prospects that they just got carried away. Flattering to think about right? Okay, back to reality. Take a deep breath and just tell them that they’re moving too fast for your liking. He or she should quickly realize that the two of you aren’t even on the same book, let alone the same page.
2. Stop being so available
Some people, as much as they might feel their space being encroached on, will try to keep up with the advanced relationship pace the other person is setting, just to be nice (and after all, we’re assuming that you’re actually pretty into this person; otherwise, why go through all this trouble to figure this out?).
No matter how they feel about their space being encroached upon, some people just go along with the advanced relationship speed being set by the other person. They’re trying to be nice about it because they’re really quite into this person.
So if you want to slow things down to your comfort level, you need to make yourself unavailable at times. If you have to be at work early tomorrow morning, then make it clear you won’t be spending any time together tonight.
Putting some distance between the two of you means no letting him or her tag along when you go out with friends. Soften the blow by telling them that this is something that in the future will be something you can do, but right now you just want to let things progress in private.
When the speed demon you’re dating makes noises about that dresser drawer or the key to your front door, and you’d rather not take that step just yet, think of a smaller step that you can take. Few of us are blessed with being a smooth talker, so offering an alternative instead of a rejection will definitely lessen the blow. Repeat step one if necessary.
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