It used to be that the definition of cheating (as far as relationships are concerned) was pretty clear. If you got physical with someone other than your partner, anything from kissing to a full fledged affair, that was cheating. It still is but in these self aware times where someone chooses to place their emotions is becoming increasingly important.
As a result, it also came to be that engaging in a strong emotional or romantic exchange with someone outside of your relationship also constituted cheating. Okay, that’s a little less black and white but we can still work with that. It’s easy enough to understand.
It was easier too, way back when, to determine if a partner was unfaithful. Clues like staying late at work, failing to call when promised, sneaking away to make a phone call and getting caught lying. It wasn’t too difficult to spot a straying spouse and deliver a good, old fashioned, slap in the face!
It’s not so much the case anymore. With all the advances in technology (text messaging, social networking sites, internet dating sites, e-mail, etc.), it’s harder than ever to know in how many ways and with whom your sweetheart is communicating.
Sure, you could check cell phone call logs or sneak a peak at your sweethearts inbox, but doing so indicates a lack of trust. However, with all the newfangled ways of communicating and engaging in cyber relationships, it’s difficult to not speculate, isn’t it?
Furthermore, if your snooping does turn up evidence of flirty emails and text messages, where do you draw the line between acceptable and unacceptable? It’s such a gray area that you could confront your partner and have him or her argue that they’re not doing anything wrong.
Talk about it
We might as well accept that social networks like Facebook and MySpace exist and they’re not going to go away anytime soon. That cell phone in your honey’s pocket? Same thing. Though communication methods have changed over the years, one thing that hasn’t is the fact that trust is still a relationship basic.
If your trust is tested and you start worrying about the kinds of communication your other half is having, you’re going to have to do something that is going to be a bit stressful. You’re going to have to talk to your partner about what constitutes cheating.
Every couple will come up with a different answer to this. It doesn’t really matter what I think because the resolution will differ from one relationship to the next. Just remember to be true to yourself and don’t agree to anything that makes you uncomfortable. Mutually agreeable boundaires are the way to go.
Meanwhile, try to spend more energy focusing on making your life with your sweetie the best it can possibly be. Keep each other interested and intrigued and the possibility of straying will be severely decreased.
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