I read an article recently that talked about women asking men out. Men appeared to find it flattering and some even seemed to prefer it. Unfortunately, when I put words into practice I failed miserably.

Personally I feel it’s just fine to ask a guy out. I mean why the heck not?? Having said that, I’d never done it. No man had ever crossed my path who stirred enough emotion in me to approach him first.

Eventually the day arrived when I contemplated making the first move. It was early in my career when I worked as a temporary. I had just begun an assignment at a law firm. The first day there I met a gorgeous guy. He was very poised and worked as an Associate Attorney. I remained calm although I found him attractive. There was not too much thought put into anything more that just a business relationship. I was too busy concentrating on my work.

As the week went on however, I would see this gentleman noticing me. He didn’t just acknowledge me as another employee, but he seemed to be attracted to me. I noticed that he would make special trips down to where I was sitting. He would flirt with me without saying a word. I came to the conclusion that this gentleman was indeed interested in me.

I wasn’t really sure what to do at first, but when I realized that the attraction went both ways the solution was simple. I was only going to be there for two more days, so I had to act fast. On my last day there, I gently pulled him aside and asked him out for lunch.

Was I ever surprised when he didn’t respond as I had expected. Instead of an unqualified “YES”, I got hesitation and then “I’ll get back to you”. One o’clock came and went without a word. He must have been tied up in a case, or so I reasoned.

Before departing for the day, I left him a voice mail message that included my home phone number. The plan was to wait until he called me. A week passed, and I heard nothing. I didn’t want to become a pest so I gave up my quest. Obviously, I had read this gentleman wrong or maybe he was just one of the few men who did not like women who made the first move. Maybe he was just a very flirtatious.

=Whatever the reason for his lack of response, I’m now a bit more tentative about making the first move. Although Associate Attorney wasn’t exactly rude, his lack of response basically had the same effect. I’d rather hear a white lie like “I’m seeing someone” or “I’m gay” than the wall of silence I did encounter.

I’m sure there are guys who like it when women ask them out. I suspect that my initiation just happened to take place with the wrong guy. I’ll do it again sometime, but when I do I’ll make doubly sure of his attraction to me!