When recently coaching a friend on an upcoming job interview, I realized that these scary meetings are very much like first dates. A lot of the anxiety is the same, as is your desire to make a dynamite first impression. Unfortunately, some of the mistakes are the same as well. Maybe you never thought about it like this, but the reason you didn’t get that job you were amazingly qualified for could be the same reason you didn’t get asked out for a second date by that adorable dude you went out with a few weeks ago.
Bad mouthing your ex
Whether we’re talking about an ex-boyfriend or an ex-boss, talking trash about the person who used to employ you/make out with you is never a flattering thing to do during the interview stage of any potential relationship, whether it be professional or personal.
If you’re trying to snag a job, and talk about what an evil tyrant your former boss was, the person interviewing you won’t be able to help but wonder if the super strained relationship wasn’t your faultand she’ll think twice before hiring someone with a history of workplace conflict.
If it’s a date? Same rules apply. If you go on and on about how horrible of a person your ex-lover is, the new person is going to think, “that could be me she’s talking about one day”. Guaranteed.
Yakkity Yakkity
The line between being confident and presenting yourself in a good light and compromising the conversation is a fine one. You want your future boss or future partner to know all the wonderful things about you, without overdoing it. Moreover, if you never stop talking, the other person, be it an interviewer or a date, will never be able to get a word in about the job/the company/themselves.
Runaway Mouth; Again
After a first date that induced butterflies or a job interview that inspired confidence, it’s all you can do to keep from jumping onto Facebook and letting the world know. Showing that restraint could save you a heap of future embarrassment.
If you think your potential new boss/boyfriend won’t find out about you jumping the gun in a public way, you’re mistaken. The internet is not a safe place, my friends. It’s safer for you, them, and everyone involved to keep mum on all budding professional and personal relationships until you have some solid good news to share.
There was something in your teeth
Perhaps you had something in your teeth, or on your shirt. Maybe your cologne of perfume was a bit overwhelming. As unfair as it may be, there are literally hundreds of little details that could be off putting to someone else. These details will derail what was otherwise a pretty good first meeting.
This post was written by the staff of the Datepad.com company where you can read hundreds of professional .
categories: internet dating,finding a date,dating tips,free online dating,sex,personals,singles,people,relationships,lifestyle,dating
