There’s no point in writing off perfectly good dates because they aren’t, well, perfect. To my mind, honest imperfection is far more preferable to falsified flawlessness; when I date someone I expect honesty, warts and all. In the spirit of dating open mindedness, here are some common first impression blunders that you should think about forgiving.
Tardiness
Granted, chronic lateness is highly annoying. If you’re a punctual person it’s definitely grounds for dumping someone, but only after awhile. Just because someone is 20 minutes late for your first date is no reason to immediately tarnish them with the tardiness brush. It could just be a onetime thing. Before you go in for the dump, make sure it truly is a habit and not a one of.
Too chatty or too quiet
Someone who talks too much or just not enough on a first date is likely suffering from a severe case of nerves. Most of us reach back to our 6-year-old conversation skills when we’re with someone who makes us nervous. Of course there’s no guarantee that things will improve, but on the first date, take someone’s chatter or lack thereof as a compliment.
You want to make your date a tad nervous. Let’s just hope that it wasn’t too painful to sit through dinner having to either do all the listening or all the talking. If you can see the charm and attraction underneath all the nerves then that warrants a second date. Hopefully the second time around their nerves will have quieted and their true personality will shine through.
They gap your name
Some people really take this personally and get totally offended when their first date calls them by another name or forgets their name entirely. I just don’t get that. It’s not meant as an insult for crying out loud, it’s just an honest gaffe.
It’s a first date and the point here is that you don’t know each other yet. Maybe your smile reminded her of her friend John and that’s why she called you John. John’s characteristics and name have already been imprinted in her brain, yours hasn’t. Now it’s another thing entirely if she calls you John when you’ve been dating for six months and you’re sharing romantic times! However, a slip up like this on the first date is not only understandable, it’s also totally forgivable.
Getting drunk
Yes, I’ve done this and yes, he never called me again. Sigh. I’m intelligent, charming and witty and he held it against me. I’m not an alcoholic, I was just incredibly nervous.
But he jumped to conclusions on the first date. There are just times that I need a drink (or five) to take the edge off; let it go already. The thing is, if your date is going to get stupidly drunk in public every time you go out then you’ll learn that soon enough. But everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt.
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