Things You Should Never Do To Fix A Relationship
No matter how wonderful your relationship, everyone goes through phases of “not so great”. No relationship is immune to larger known issues, nor to the small stuff that leaves us out of sorts with each other. The good news? It’s not the end; and it doesn’t mean that things won’t go back to being love dovey.
What’s not so good is that while you’re in the middle of a quarrelsome twosome it can be very difficult to look ahead to the time when things will be better. It can also lead us to do some crazy things in the hopes of turning our relationship around to smoother waters.
I get it. I’ve been there. I’m serious. And to prove it, here is my handy little sampling of save-the-relationship maneuvers that either I’ve tried or have had tried on me…and please remember that these are warnings, not suggestions! Hint: I did not do the baby thing. Promise.
Go for a Baby
There is just so much wrong with this it’s hard to know where to start. That it even needs to be mentioned is just sad. It happens though, too often. People get scared and think that an addition to the family will bring them closer together as a couple, even if that means tricking their partner into an “accidental” pregnancy. It will do no such thing; and using an innocent to try to patch your relationship? Abhorrent!
Invade your partner’s privacy
“I know that if I sneak a peak at his email and text messages I’ll gain some insight into what he’s thinking. If I can do that I can fix all our problems”. Are you crazy?? Besides possibly breaking the law this is bound to get you broken up. Deliberately snooping through someone’s private business is never okay.
Moreover, checking his Facebook account and his other means of communication are guaranteed to freak you out. It’s a lose lose situation. If you find something incriminating you won’t be able to use it in court. If you find nothing then you’re just a sneaky snoop. So don’t even go there.
Move in with each other
This kind of goes along with the whole baby thing. Couples have this strange, habitual impulse to move a relationship forward when trouble comes to town. Although completely illogical, I suppose it’s also a completely natural response; the idea of facing your problems (and possible the end of your relationship) is such a downer.
Understandable because you figure moving in together is one way of staying close to your partner. But guess what, your problems are going to follow you wherever you go. Though the change of scenery may provide a temporary respite, when your problems resurface, and the will, you now have the added responsibility, and complication, of a shared lease or mortgage.
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