Most of us have been in a relationship where we both know that there’s a problem. It’s that in between time; not quite together and not quite broken up. However, neither party wants to be the first to admit they want out.
“In between” time can be a time of strange thoughts. Though the two of you present a pretty normal couple face when you’re out in public, the thoughts in your head are definitely not for public consumption. Let’s take a look.
As you progress through the stage in between “together” and “broken up”, the emotional distance, not to mention the actual physical distance, between you and your partner becomes bigger and bigger. And at a certain point that distance will become so great that you find yourself thinking more as a single person than as someone who is part of a couple.
There are three specific signs you should look for. If reading these is like looking in the mirror, it’s time for a talk with your partner, no matter how uncomfortable that may be. If you don’t chances are you’ll start acting like you’re single before you actually are.
1. You find yourself checking out other people
And you aren’t just scoping for fun, either. If you’re actually looking at people other than the one you’re technically with and thinking about approaching them, fantasizing (even just briefly) about what it would be like to be with them instead, or even weighing your options with other people against what you already have; these are all pretty solid signs that you’re mentally checking out of your current relationship.
Let’s face it; if you spend more time contemplating “what if” with other potential mates it’s not a stretch to deduce that you aren’t satisfied with what you have.
2. You’d rather be alone
A few years ago you’d have a bad day at work and come home to a lovely cuddle with your partner; it was the highlight of your day. Not anymore. Now the very thought of it is a sore point. It’s become just one more thing you have to deal with. Instead, you’re wishing for alone time.
I’m a big proponent of each partner having enough “me” time. Even the happiest of relationships benefit from it. If your lover’s arms no longer offer you any comfort, then you have to ask yourself what you’re doing there.
3. Your plans don’t include him/her
There used to be a time, when your relationship was still magical, that breaking up never even entered into your thoughts. All your plans, immediate ones and those for the future, included your significant other. And you were both smiling and happy.
But now your relationship has hit a pothole. You realize that as a couple you actually are breakable and your future is looking less and less certain. If you’ve reached the point of no return, then any plans you’re making now are probably just for you, and don’t include your partner. If that’s the case, your mind has been made up for you.
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