We’re always told that trust is essential to a relationship so when you suspect that your partner is lying to you, it’s horribly frustrating. But there’s one thing worse and that’s when you know he or she is lying, but won’t own up.
I hope that all of you coupled-up folks out there are not having to deal with this but instead have evolved past the need for petty lies and are rejoicing happily in the bright, sunny fields of mutual respect, love and honesty.
But for those of us still living in the real world, where seemingly perfect and wonderful mates gets wasted and make out with strangers at bars and then lie about it, we might need a little help when trying to figure out if our partner is really spinning tall talesor if we’re just being paranoid. Well, here’s your quick-and-easy cheat sheet:
1. Your words are repeated back to you
Repeating what you say. It’s a tell tale sign that someone is not being quite honest when he or she repeats your question before giving an answer. It just gives them more time to make something up. You probably did this in school when the teacher asked you a question to which you didn’t know the answer. It’s a simple stall technique. If your sweetie plays this copy cat game, you need to dig deeper.
2. Check their eyes
It’s said that eyes are the windows to the soul. In the case of a liar, he or she will not want to look straight into yours unless he or she is a pathological liar in which case you should just cut and run. If your lover is shifty eyed, take a glance at his or her pupils. If they’re spinning lies, their pupils will likely be dilated.
3. Inconsistency
The story went something like this; your guy (or gal) went out with their same sex friends, all night, and you’ve heard from a reliable source that he or she was up to no good. When asked, this idiot partner of yours keeps changing his story a little bit every time he tells it. Like he’s forgetting the truth! There’s only one thing to remember here; even if you’re stressed out, if your partner doesn’t believe what you’re telling them, you’re not going to “forget” the truth.
What will happen when someone is telling the truth is that you’ll be told the same thing over and over again. Because a truthful person will want you to believe them, so they’ll repeat themselves ad nauseum until you do. If your guy or gal’s story takes on a shape shifting quality, beware.
4. He/She becomes overly defensive
This one can be tricky; if you go on the attack the response will be a defensive one which will make your partner look guilty even if he or she isn’t. If however you use a reasonable tone and the level of defense is out of proportion that could be their guilt swimming to the surface. Closely related to being too defensive is the use of language that is overly convincing.
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