Dating has been a way to meet people, learn more about them and eventually know. We derive physical enjoyment and excitement from dating overly when we are on the quest to find our partner for the meantime or for life. However, there has been alarming violence happening on dates, especially with blind dates where you meet a person for the first. It is always best to be at your guard before taking a dive in this emotional and social activity. Here some tips that will keep you safe when dating.

The biggest concern is where your date is going to happen. Never invite a complete stranger to your home for a first date or give exact information where you live even if this person is your date. Choose locations where a lot of people are in sight, like a restaurant or an art gallery. This way you don’t need to feel uneasy about the thought of something wrong might happen. If you can set up the date during daylight hours, consider doing so, this will make you comfortable and will let you enjoy the meet.

Conversation is the main course on any date, but avoids giving too much personal information, such as where you work, especially in the first date. It is acceptable being discreet in the beginning, telling your date anything about your work on a need to know basis.

Don’t allow someone to get you into something that you are not comfortable doing. Be in charge of yourself and don’t be misguided. That could mean making a rain check for an offer of coffee at your date’s house towards the end of the date. He/she might try to persuade you but always make sensible decisions with help of your instincts and your logical mind. Things are better made when not rushed.

Always inform a good friend about the whereabouts of your date and especially with whom you are going out with. If doubts are in your mind, schedule a time for your friend to call and check everything is alright. Keep your mobile phone with you and on all of the times. If you live alone, make a friend wait for your return just to make you feel reassured.

Make your own travel arrangements when going on a date. It might be that your date offers to give you a ride, but until you get to know them better, politely refuse and take either your own car, public transport or have a friend drive you to your destination and back.

Keep your first date to a specified time limit. Letting them know that you have other arrangements later on in the day will allow for an “exit” point.

Do not consume more alcohol than needed, for your first date, especially if it is with someone who an hour before was a complete stranger, you don’t want to make yourself vulnerable and allow them to take advantage at that stage. Too much alcohol intake could lead to things that you really don’t want. It is better to know your limits and stick to them.

These rules might sound a little overkill, but the reality is that you might be introducing yourself to a complete stranger, especially with the amount of online dating we take part in these days. Following these and other safe dating strategies will make sure you can relax and enjoy yourself safely and without the fear that someone will take advantage of you.

Dorthy Weatherbush got her sister to sign up for e-Harmony because she is single and looking to mingle. With www.eharmony.com, she has been able to meet new people and has gone out on lots of interesting dates.

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